|It's not like this for serious. CREDIT.|
Usually this happens most with regular customers. I’ll be working at the bar, mixing drinks like a true master of all things alcoholic and a customer will clear their throat in a way that quite obviously means “I have something to say with absolutely no idea how to say it.” After acknowledging the dramatic throat clear, I’ll find myself in the middle of a stammering, uncomfortable conversation that boils down to asking if I’ve lost weight.
“Um, I don’t really know how to say this, but have you…um…maybe lost a little weight?”
“You know, you look different. I guess I’m not sure, but maybe you’ve been at the gym a bit lately?”
“I think, well maybe I don’t know, that perhaps you’ve toned up some. I’m not really sure. I don’t come here that much.”
Actually, you’re here twice a week, but whose counting anyway? No matter the delivery, it’s pretty obvious that people have no idea how to address the change in my body. Of course I totally understand. We live in a society that has – rightfully – taught us it’s disrespectful to make inquires regarding a woman’s weight. Hell, it’s rude to make inquires about anyone’s weight. But sometimes, regardless of the situation, it’s nice to hear a compliment.
And that, my friends, is the difference. If it’s apparent that someone has had a positive body change odds are they’d probably love a positive response to that change. I’ve literally worked my ass off of my body after months of very hard work. I’ve sweated. I’ve sustained myself on boiled chicken. I’ve consumed more protein in liquid form than some people probably eat in a year. And most of it has totally sucked. It was hard and it’s nice knowing that all of it really did make a noticeable difference. Yes, I can look in the mirror everyday like a vain little twit and spew affirmations, but nothing is better than someone else taking notice and saying something nice.
If you notice a change in someone, go ahead and say something. If they’re anything like me, they’ll really appreciate the compliment. After all, a girl cannot live on protein and complex carbs alone; those don’t feed the soul.
So go ahead and sit at my bar and confidentially ask if I’m a personal trainer (yes, that actually happened). Point out that I may have lost weight. Because guess what? I have.
If I can generalize, remember the importance of complimenting people. Yes, it can occasionally feel awkward to do so, but it can really make a person’s day. It’s just nice to be noticed and – even more so – appreciated. I’ve made it my new personal goal to compliment someone everyday because the world could use a little love. Let’s spread love people!
Oh, and thanks for letting me know how much you like my “guns.”
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